As featured in the award-winning documentaries Pray Away and For They Know Not What They Do, Randy’s story reveals the struggle of coming to terms with being a gay man of faith. In his former career, Randy served as the last Executive Vice President of Exodus International. In his executive role, Randy contributed to several books, was featured in The Los Angeles Times, and was interviewed by worldwide media outlets as a lead spokesperson for the organization he would eventually help shut down.
Since (re)embracing his life and his truth, Randy works passionately against the toxic ideology that underlies conversion therapy—especially in its “pastoral” form of exgay ministry—further proving that the abuse must end. Ultimately, his extraordinary story proves that the proverbial “stained glass closet” is no match for authentic love.
Today, Randy lives with his husband Dan, their daughter, and two fur babies in the suburbs of Orlando.
Here are Randy’s beliefs regarding Conversion Therapy and its “pastoral” form known as Exgay Ministry:
I am dedicated to full inclusion for LGBTQ+ people through education and advocacy by confronting religion-based stigma, conversion therapy, ex-gay ministry, and all other attempts to change or repress LGBTQ+ people’s innate sexuality and identity.
Affirming LGBTQ+ people is honoring the Image of God in us, as we are. I believe most people seek to love and affirm LGBTQ+ people but may have been conditioned through religious stigma to condemn us and our relationships. Through forced behavioral modification and imposing a false context on our lives this has created systemic oppression that keeps some LGBTQ+ from flourishing. I want to help change that by empowering LGBTQ+ people and our allies to navigate out of, heal from, and live beyond stigmatizing religion. Whether an LGBTQ+ person of faith or not, in whatever way I can I want to help people move forward to live emotionally and relationally thriving lives within the context of a healthy self-esteem, life-giving relationships, and equal standing within their community.
I celebrate the truth that all LGBTQ+ people are worthy of dignity, honor, respect, spiritual affirmation, and full equality in every sector of life. We stand against fear-based religious efforts to promote ex-gay brand of “conversion” therapy, and social/political inequality. We applaud all courageous efforts to help LGBTQ+ people develop and have access to more life-giving resources as they seek to avoid or escape oppressive religion to improve their lives.