On my old blog a commenter left a heartfelt set of questions as a comment. Because there are quite a few, I will quote in part and then answer each of the questions as we progress. How do you respond to individuals who were led by exgay group leaders and it became an deeper battle... Continue Reading →
Three “Coming Out” Fears That Turned Out to be Myths
For over 22 years in the ex-gay/conversion ministry world, I was told directly or had personal fears that certain things would happen if I ever "embraced being gay" again. I am going to put three of these accusations and personal fears in quotes (below) and then address each one directly: "If you dare darken the... Continue Reading →
“Pride” Podcast picks up Interview with Anne Heche
I am honored that Pride podcast picked up the interview I did with Anne Heche and Heather Duffy Boylston. Conversion therapy must end, we must stop the toxic ideology that stigmatizes LGBTQ+ people and our relationships. Many people never thought I would make it out of that world, but my heart and mind changed drastically... Continue Reading →
My Guardian Angel Is Also My Drag Mom – Honoring Mella & Michael
"Coming Out" got me "Thrown Out" At age 19, my Mom discovered something that would upend both of our worlds. While she was doing laundry, she found an invitation in my pocket to a gay Valentine’s Day party. There was no mistaking that it was quite the gay affair. My mother, the only person I... Continue Reading →
A Perilous Journey to Authenticity: My Survival Story
Since the Pray Away film was released, I get asked the following questions series frequently. "How did you go from being out in the '80s and back in the closet born again Christian in the '90s. Then go to upper echelon leader of the exgay movement in the '00s to be the EVP of Exodus and help... Continue Reading →
A Challenge to Current Conversion Therapy/Exgay Ministry Leaders
Next Wednesday, Pray Away will have its world premiere at the Tribeca Film festival. In the film, I share my unique point-of-view of ex-gay ministry (aka conversion therapy) as the former Executive Vice President of Exodus International, as do my friends, predecessors and former colleagues: Julie Rodgers, Yvette Schneider, John Paulk, Michael Bussee, and others. I share... Continue Reading →
The Moment
In Central Park For 21 years I was conditioned to believe that I would have to deny my feelings and marry the opposite sex or that I was divinely called to live as a celibate person for the rest of my life. Up until four years ago I never would have thought that the morning... Continue Reading →