What Are They Talking About? An Abridged List Of Conversion Therapy Speak

The language that conversion therapy groups, especially exgay ministries, can be confounding, confusing, and in some cases frustratingly offensive. Friends suggested that I write a post explaining exgay-speak, seeing as I helped coin some of it back in the day and spoke it for over two decades. So here is an abridged list of phrases,…

We Are Not Broken

“There is nothing to prove and nothing to protect. I am who I am, and it’s enough.” ― Fr. Richard Rohr Let’s start this article with something simple to say, yet so many of us have struggled a lifetime to embrace: *You* are not broken. *I* am not broken. *We* are human. We are beings…

Why I Chose To Be A Part Of The “Pray Away” Film

The “Pray Away” trailer is out, and the film will stream internationally on Netflix on August 3rd. If you haven’t seen the trailer check it out: I keep seeing people implying I participated in this project to make money or get notoriety. Neither is the case. I will address those two accusations and then get…

The Many Faces of Conversion Therapy May Surprise You

Trigger Warning for Survivors: This article, while careful writing was used in a way to try and protect survivors of conversion therapy, it is still going to possibly trigger readers who are survivors. If you decide to read, you may remember experiences with people described in one or more of the below groups. Please take…

A Challenge to Current Conversion Therapy/Exgay Ministry Leaders

Next Wednesday, Pray Away will have its world premiere at the Tribeca Film festival. In the film, I share my unique point-of-view of ex-gay ministry (aka conversion therapy) as the former Executive Vice President of Exodus International, as do my friends, predecessors and former colleagues: Julie Rodgers, Yvette Schneider, John Paulk, Michael Bussee, and others. I share…

“Pray Away” picked up by Murphy, Blum, and Netflix

That Ryan Murphy and Jason Blum are quite popular fellas. I am still pinching myself after the news of these two powerhouse super-creatives picked up Pray Away, and it will be airing internationally on Netflix sometime in August. I have to say, as a long time fan of both of these guys, a wee bit…

The Amazing Magical “Straight” Male

Don’t get me wrong, I think all males are magical and amazing. Cis gender, trans, gay, straight, bi… unicorn… I don’t care males are magical. No more magical than women, queer or non-binary, but magical. Well, I guess this whole paragraph could be summed up in a single statment; every human being and unicorn is…

The Real Hidden Sin

A little disclaimer. I mention sex stuff in this post. It’s not graphic or anywhere close to written porn but it does mention how masturbation and porn were stigmatized in my past and the role they play in my life today. The post isn’t about those two things but thought I would let you know…

A Peaceful Disclosure – I Am Gay

I have read many stories of people who have “come out again” or accepted they are gay after some time in the ex-gay world. Many of their stories are compelling and well-written. But, sometimes I wish they would get to the point right off the bat. Just say it and then tell the story. So that…