Don’t Fret Susan, Jesus & I Are Great!

I have wanted to but wrestled with responding to this comment. However, I am going to because of the ex-gay/conversion ministry messaging in it; Susan E. writes: I read through your entire blog and it reveals that God is not and never was enough for you. Giving in to sin and justifying it before people…

“Pride” Podcast picks up Interview with Anne Heche

I am honored that Pride podcast picked up the interview I did with Anne Heche and Heather Duffy Boylston. Conversion therapy must end, we must stop the toxic ideology that stigmatizes LGBTQ+ people and our relationships. Many people never thought I would make it out of that world, but my heart and mind changed drastically…

My Guardian Angel Is Also My Drag Mom – Honoring Mella & Michael

“Coming Out” got me “Thrown Out” At age 19, my Mom discovered something that would upend both of our worlds. While she was doing laundry, she found an invitation in my pocket to a gay Valentine’s Day party. There was no mistaking that it was quite the gay affair.  My mother, the only person I…

And “Such Were Some of You;” Unpacking Exgay Speak

I am not a theologian nor the son of one. I don’t particularly appreciate getting into theological debates and now refuse to get into them. While I know my Bible backward and forwards, getting into theological “discussions” (for me) is like eating glass. Then, while chewing on the shards, people complain, criticize, and argue about…

“Dear SBC Pastor…”

This letter was sent originally through the Tyler Clementi Foundation’s “True Faith Doesn’t Bully” campaign in September. Please read the outpouring of love and letters from the LGBTQ+ and ally community by clicking here. Letter from Randy Thomas, Former VP of Exodus International. Dear Pastor, My name is Randy Thomas, and I am writing to…

What Are They Talking About? An Abridged List Of Conversion Therapy Speak

The language that conversion therapy groups, especially exgay ministries, can be confounding, confusing, and in some cases frustratingly offensive. Friends suggested that I write a post explaining exgay-speak, seeing as I helped coin some of it back in the day and spoke it for over two decades. So here is an abridged list of phrases,…

We Are Not Broken

“There is nothing to prove and nothing to protect. I am who I am, and it’s enough.” ― Fr. Richard Rohr Let’s start this article with something simple to say, yet so many of us have struggled a lifetime to embrace: *You* are not broken. *I* am not broken. *We* are human. We are beings…

Why I Chose To Be A Part Of The “Pray Away” Film

The “Pray Away” trailer is out, and the film will stream internationally on Netflix on August 3rd. If you haven’t seen the trailer check it out: I keep seeing people implying I participated in this project to make money or get notoriety. Neither is the case. I will address those two accusations and then get…

A Challenge to Current Conversion Therapy/Exgay Ministry Leaders

Next Wednesday, Pray Away will have its world premiere at the Tribeca Film festival. In the film, I share my unique point-of-view of ex-gay ministry (aka conversion therapy) as the former Executive Vice President of Exodus International, as do my friends, predecessors and former colleagues: Julie Rodgers, Yvette Schneider, John Paulk, Michael Bussee, and others. I share…