Welcome
Life, Growth, and Intimacy
Hi there! My name is Randy and this is where I write about life, growth, and intimacy — basically all the things I should have figured out by now.
Three focal points on life from one very human voice.
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The Algorithm and I Are in a Toxic Relationship
Listen, I clicked one article — one — about something I genuinely cared about. Within 48 hours, my newsfeed had decided exactly who I was,…
Recent Writing
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A New Chapter
Writing this feels a little tender, honestly. My sexploring posts have meant something to me — they came from a place of…
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Bar Hopping While Queer: A Field Report from Seven Gay Bars Across Three Destinations
Welcome back to Sexplorer, where we go places, do things, and then tell you about it with more honesty than is probably…
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I Will Not Let Them Have This Too
Thrive is a space where I write honestly about navigating life with full presence — the joy, the grief, the beauty, and…
Three focal points on life from one very human voice…
Mugwump Ramblings
My weekly attempt to make sense of the world so I can fight for life instead of being run over by it.
Wayfinder
A midweek dispatch from the part of me that wanders off emotionally and sends back cryptic little postcards.
Thrive
Where I check in on my personal growth and discover, yet again, that I don’t have to have “issues” to deal with.
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