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The Fully Clothed Guy at the Clothing-Optional Campground
I went to a gay clothing-optional campground and somehow managed to keep every damn piece of clothing on. It’s funny…
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My Give-a-Damn Isn’t Broken. It’s Just More Selective.
I haven’t run out of give-a-damn. I’ve just learned that energy is a currency—and not every opinion, argument, or person…
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The Person You Were Isn’t Evidence Against the Person You Are
Randy Scobey reflects on facing the harm of his past, making room for change, and giving the person he is…
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What Happened to All My Former Selves?
From an invisible abused child to a public ex-gay advocate and, finally, a man learning to live honestly, I look…
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We Were Trapped in the Mirror Too
A former Exodus leader reflects on the pressure to become a living testimony—and what happens when honesty threatens the story.
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Randemption
Revisiting the gay bars of my youth, reclaiming one terrible memory, and discovering that time turns leather bars into luxury…
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When the Pastor Becomes Untouchable
Death of a Pastor’s Wife tells an extreme story, but the church hierarchy surrounding it—and the misuse of spiritual authority—is…
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Forty Years Later, We Finally Stopped Keeping Score
Forty years after high school, I expected nostalgia. What I found instead was peace, laughter, old friends, reading glasses, a…
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Nobody Warned Me About Becoming an Older Gay Man
I spent years figuring out how to be gay. Apparently nobody thought to mention I would eventually have to figure…
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Artistic Creativity Is Part Of My Core Value
This “core value” journey has been like dealing with ceiling popcorn; what was once seen as a good idea is…
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The Blue Wave Isn't Guaranteed
Why my worries about Democrats haven’t gone away Back when I was a self-loathing pick-me Republican, I did get one…
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FORTY Years Later, I’m Finally Showing Up
Reunion, redemption, and the long road back to self‑worth. We were the “first to go four” at Brentwood High School…
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When Platforms Start Checking Your Pulse
Substack’s new AI scanner and the strange vibe it creates. So, this is happening, is scanning us now. I don’t…
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How to Avoid Turning Into a Sanctimonious Gremlin
The ability to catch yourself mid‑transformation and slam the brakes on before the fangs come in isn’t as fun as…
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Core Value, Missing in Action
Trying to locate my self‑worth without calling tech support Yesterday I turned on my MacBook Air, logged in, and joined…
